The Stork and I
S4: E7 A Single Revolution with Shani Silver

S4: E7 A Single Revolution with Shani Silver

October 13, 2021

In todays episode, I chat to Shani Silver

Shani is a writer and the host of A Single Serving Podcast. Her work focuses on changing the negative narratives around being single in an effort to improve the way single life is experienced. Shani's work helps singles reframe the limiting, shame-filled societal messages around singlehood and reframe them to hold more truth and authenticity. On October 26th, 2021 Shani is releasing her first book, A Single Revolution: Don't look for a match. Light one.

 

In todays chat we cover: 

- The narrative around single women as compared to that of single men

- How reframing can help us to enjoy singlehood a lot more

- The importance of language when discussing singlehood

- Why we don't have to find a partner for our life to start
- Coming to the realisation we don't have to have a baby, if we don't want to have a baby
- How spending time with babies can help you decide if you want to be a parent
- Challenging the assumption that we are all supposed to get married and have children
- The importance of making conscious decisions, whatever they may be

and much, much more.....

You can purchase A Single Revolution , Shani's new book from Amazon from 26th October 2021

 

Connect with Shani Silver:

Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanisilver

Medium: https://shanisilver.medium.com/

Podcast: A Single Serving

Book: A Single Revolution: Don't look for a match. Light one.

Website: https://www.shanisilver.com/

 

 

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About Mel Johnson

Hi! I'm Mel, The Solo Parenthood Coach and following my own journey to solo parenthood, I created The Stork and I to support others going through the same journey. 

I'm also on a mission to change the narrative around solo parenthood

Learn more about me at www.thestorkandi.com

S4:E6 Getting fertility treatment abroad

S4:E6 Getting fertility treatment abroad

October 6, 2021

In todays episode I chat to Emma Haslam from @yourIVFabroad

Emma is an expert in fertility treatment abroad and after her own journey with treatment abroad she set up Your IVF abroad, to help others by making fertility treatment more affordable, accessible and supported and to give people who she was missing. Emma helps people to find a clinic that matches their needs and wants and supports them through treatment, she also offers donor conception information sessions so you can make informed decisions.
 
Aiming to change the narrative Emma has become an advocate, speaker, campaigner and writer for the infertility community and on donor conception. 
 
In todays chat we cover: 
 
- How to manage being told you need to lose weight before starting your fertility journey
- Some of the key reasons people choose to get treatment abroad
- Where to start if you're considering treatment abroad
- How long you need to spend abroad if you're having your treatment in a clinic in a different country
- The impact of Covid on getting treatment abroad
- Where you can get more information and connect with others getting treatment abroad
...and much more!
 
Emma has a free Facebook community where she and peers offer support to those curious about, planning or having IVF abroad. It's a closed community that will not show up in your news feed or profile and you can choose to post anonymously.
 
To check out the support group, have a listen to her podcasts, check out Emma's services and free resources - including a checklist to see if fertility treatment abroad is right for you please use the link below.
 
 
 

Thank you for listening to The Stork and I Podcast! I would love for you to share this episode and let me know what you think! Please take a moment to rate and review, it really helps others find the podcast which can be a great source of support!

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About Mel Johnson

Hi! I'm Mel, The Solo Parenthood Coach and following my own journey to solo parenthood, I created The Stork and I to support others going through the same journey. 

I'm also on a mission to change the narrative around solo parenthood

Learn more about me at www.thestorkandi.com

 
S4: E5 Single Parent Rights

S4: E5 Single Parent Rights

September 29, 2021

In todays episode I speak to Ruth, a single mum who works in the charity sector. She has two young boys who she has raised solo since her eldest was six months old. Her first was conceived through marriage, and the second via donor conception.

Ruth has been writing about single parenting for over six years on her blog Ellamental Mama, trying to raise understanding of the realities faced by single parents - the good, bad and the ugly.

Her writing has been featured in The Guardian, The I Paper and The Metro, amongst others.

In 2020, Ruth set up the Single Parent Rights campaign to push for changes to UK law to address the ongoing discrimination of single parents after helping to lobby for the introduction of single parent support bubbles in the first UK lockdown.    

In todays episode we discuss: 

- The decision to have a second child using donor conception
- Talking to your children about their conception
- First hand experience of becoming a parent in a relationship and then becoming a parent outside of a relationship
- Why its not always better to have a partner
- Getting single parents included in the Equality Act
- Examples of discrimination against single parents
- How to get involved with Single Parent Rights

and much more!

You can see more of Ruth on Instagram on @ellamental_mama and @singleparentrights
S4: E4 Using an Au Pair as part of your support network

S4: E4 Using an Au Pair as part of your support network

September 22, 2021

In todays episode I chat to Sophy. 

Sophy is 36 and lives in South Oxfordshire with her 3 year old twins. She started the journey to solo motherhood at 31 after receiving the results of a fertility test she took. 

Sophy got 2 eggs from her treatment, transferred them both and now has twin girls. 

 

In this episode we cover: 

- The decision to transfer 2 embryos

- Solo parenting twins

- Using an au pair to form part of your support network

- Freelancing as a solo parent

- Dating as a solo parent

and much, much more!

 

 

S4: E3 Thoughts on being donor conceived

S4: E3 Thoughts on being donor conceived

September 15, 2021
In today's episode I speak to Emma, 25, from Denmark who is donor conceived. 
Emma was born using an anonymous donor. She has a mum and a dad and 2 sisters. 
She started a blog 3 years ago where she shares her thoughts and experiences on being donor conceived.
 
In this episode we cover:
 
- The importance of how our children's conception story is shared with them
- Why Emma decided to start @donorchild Instagram account
- Why it can be helpful for our children to hear their conception story from birth
- How being donor conceived can make you feel 
- Having siblings who are not donor conceived when you are
- The importance of honesty from the very beginning
- Why Emma hasn't had an interest in finding more out about her donor or any potential half siblings
- A different perspective on using an anonymous donor
- Donor siblings and when and if to try to find them
- Advice for those considering solo motherhood
 
You can find her at:
 
Instagram: @donorchild
Book: Donor Child: A Child of Love
 
 
 
 
 
 
S4: E2 Managing your finances as a solo parent

S4: E2 Managing your finances as a solo parent

September 8, 2021
In today's episode of the podcast I chat to George Agan. George is a Chartered Financial Planner. He runs Principles Personal Finance which is a financial education site. He also has his own YouTube channel
 
I often get questions about finances from people who contact me and I didn't used to feel properly equipped to answer in depth enough, and this episode helps to provide some further clarity.  
 
In todays episode we covered: 
 
- The cost estimate of having children
- How to bring clarity to your own financial situation
- Adopting a renting methodology to save money (and the environment)
- What amount of savings you might need to feel secure
- What levers you have available to help manage your budget
- How you can get creative to help your budget
- Why planning is everything
- How to plan for the worst case scenario 
- The importance of Power of Attorney and having a will
- The 3 golden rules of personal finance
 
RISK WARNING 
The views stated in this discussion are for informational and education purposes and should not be viewed as advice. The information provided in this presentation has been compiled from sources believed to be reliable and current, but accuracy should be placed in the context of the underlying assumptions. Any views stated are individual.
 
All content is being provided for informational purposes only and should not be considered to be investment or tax advice. No financial or investment decisions should be made solely based on the information in any podcast, blog or video.
 
Some of the useful links we covered in the podcast are below: 
 
S4: E1 Talking to our children about their conception with Sarah Sproule

S4: E1 Talking to our children about their conception with Sarah Sproule

September 1, 2021

Welcome to episode 1 of the 4th series of The Stork and I Podcast

In this episode I chat to Occupational Therapist and Sex Educator, Sarah Sproule.

When Sarah was 11 she was afraid she was only growing one breast and didn’t know who to turn to for help. 
 
Now as mother of three teens, with two decades experience as a therapist and a masters in sexuality studies, Sarah uses her skills as an occupational therapist and sex educator to ensure every parent and caring adult knows how to build deeper connection with their growing kid(s). 
 
Because no child should ever feel alone and unable to reach out for help with their body, their boundaries or their knowledge about sexuality. 
 
… and yes Sarah eventually grew two breasts roughly the same size.
 
As solo parents, it is our responsibility to talk to our children about their conception and to ensure to the best of our ability that they understand and feel comfortable and confident discussing it. I talk to Sarah about getting some hints and tips on how to best have these conversations. 
 
In this episode we cover: 
 
- Why we have anxiety about talking about these topics with our children
- Why our reactions to our kids questions are so important
- Why starting talking to our children from birth can be a benefit
- Why it is important to use the correct anatomical words
- Seed vs sperm which language to use
- How to have conversations about conception with our children
 
and much much more. 
 
You can find out more information from Sarah's instagram account: 
 
Her YouTube Podcast: 
https://www.youtube.com/c/sarahsproule
 
She also holds a free mini series www.sarahsproule.com/explain
 
 
 

 

Series 4 Trailer

Series 4 Trailer

August 26, 2021

The wait is finally over. The Stork and I Podcast for those considering solo parenthood is back!

Series 4 of the podcast is launching on 1st September 2021. 

Subscribe now so you don't miss out!

S3: 10 Using a known donor to become a solo mum

S3: 10 Using a known donor to become a solo mum

July 7, 2021

In todays episode I chat to Joscelyn Webb, solo mum to a nearly 4 year old son. Joscelyn lives in Hong Kong and travelled to the UK for treatment using a known donor.

 

In this episode we cover: 

- Making the decision to start trying to conceive following fertility test results

- Deciding on using a known donor

- Contacting potential known donors to ask if they would be interested in being a donor

- Grieving for the path to parenthood we presumed we would follow

- The benefits of parenting solo

- Flying back to the UK for treatment

- Male role models 

- The discussions and agreements made with a known donor before trying to conceive

- Being aware that things might change and being open to that

- Talking to our children about their conception

and much more...

 

 

 

S3: 9 Being a freelance solo mum

S3: 9 Being a freelance solo mum

June 30, 2021
In todays podcast I chat to solo mum, freelancer and author Kate Sawyer. 
Kate has an 18 month old daughter and has just had her first book, The Stranding, published. We discuss how Kate has made freelancing work for her, as a solo mum. 
 
In todays episode we cover: 
 
- Making sacrifices in order to save money for becoming a solo mum
- Writing a book during pregnancy
- Being creative with finances to save as much money as possible
- Moving out of London to be closer to family
- The importance of having a good support system in place
- Getting treatment in Denmark
- Top tips for making freelance work for you when pursuing solo motherhood
 
....and much more!
 
You can follow Kate on Instagram at @mskatesawyer and you can get her book from Amazon and many other book shops. 
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