The Stork and I
S3: 10 Using a known donor to become a solo mum

S3: 10 Using a known donor to become a solo mum

July 7, 2021

In todays episode I chat to Joscelyn Webb, solo mum to a nearly 4 year old son. Joscelyn lives in Hong Kong and travelled to the UK for treatment using a known donor.

 

In this episode we cover: 

- Making the decision to start trying to conceive following fertility test results

- Deciding on using a known donor

- Contacting potential known donors to ask if they would be interested in being a donor

- Grieving for the path to parenthood we presumed we would follow

- The benefits of parenting solo

- Flying back to the UK for treatment

- Male role models 

- The discussions and agreements made with a known donor before trying to conceive

- Being aware that things might change and being open to that

- Talking to our children about their conception

and much more...

 

 

 

S3: 9 Being a freelance solo mum

S3: 9 Being a freelance solo mum

June 30, 2021
In todays podcast I chat to solo mum, freelancer and author Kate Sawyer. 
Kate has an 18 month old daughter and has just had her first book, The Stranding, published. We discuss how Kate has made freelancing work for her, as a solo mum. 
 
In todays episode we cover: 
 
- Making sacrifices in order to save money for becoming a solo mum
- Writing a book during pregnancy
- Being creative with finances to save as much money as possible
- Moving out of London to be closer to family
- The importance of having a good support system in place
- Getting treatment in Denmark
- Top tips for making freelance work for you when pursuing solo motherhood
 
....and much more!
 
You can follow Kate on Instagram at @mskatesawyer and you can get her book from Amazon and many other book shops. 
S3: 8 Travelling as a solo mum

S3: 8 Travelling as a solo mum

June 24, 2021

In todays episode I chat to Natalie. 

Natalie is an avid traveller and a solo mum to 2.5 year old Tiger. She chats to me about using her maternity leave to spend time travelling with her daughter.

In this episode we discuss: 

- Meeting someone in our lives who inspires us to travel
- Becoming a solo mother when you have a boyfriend
- Egg freezing and being an egg donor
- Getting treatment abroad
- Experiencing numerous treatment cycles
- Navigating solo motherhood with a partner
- Preparation and logistics for travel during maternity and the things to consider and plan for
- Maximising annual leave for travel when you're back at work
- The differences travelling with a baby and a toddler
 
and much much more!

 

To find out more about Natalie and Tigers travel adventures you can read her blog at www.tigerontour.com

 

 

S3: 7 Solo Mothers By Choice Support Groups

S3: 7 Solo Mothers By Choice Support Groups

June 16, 2021
In todays episode I speak to Jenny Nash, solo mum to Dottie and the Founder of Solo Mothers By Choice UK Facebook Group. 
 
In this episode we cover: 
 
- Telling our grandparents about our decision
- Fertility education at school
- The advantages of freezing eggs in your 20s
- The importance of getting good sleep and what help is available
- The experiences of having 3 generations in one house
- The importance of having a solo mum support network
- Finding donor siblings
- The experience of deciding to try for a sibling
- Advice for people at the beginning of the journey
 
and much more!
 
You can follow Jenny on Instagram @dottie_about_you
You can find Solo Mothers By Choice UK on Facebook
 
You can also join The Stork and I Mum Tribe Facebook Group if you haven't already. 
S3: 6 The journey to solo fatherhood

S3: 6 The journey to solo fatherhood

June 9, 2021
In todays episode I chat to David Watkins AKA @the_dadness. David is a solo dad by choice to his son Miles who he conceived using an egg donor and a surrogate. I was really excited to chat to him to hear his perspective of embarking on the journey to solo parenthood as a single man.  
 
In this episode we cover: 
 
- The experience of seeing other people with their children and the feelings that brings about
- Exploring adoption as a single man
- Considering co-parenting with a friend and the complications surrounding that decision
- What wanting to be a dad really means
- How the surrogacy process works in the UK
- The barriers to becoming a solo dad by choice
- Choosing an egg donor
- The experience of parenting solo 
- Why it can be challenging to admit parenting is tough when you have gone through such a process to get there
- Why David created Dad. Be to support other men in similar situations
 
and much more!
 
You can connect with David on his Instagram account @the_dadness
 
S3: 5: Writing a book about solo motherhood

S3: 5: Writing a book about solo motherhood

June 2, 2021
In this episode I chat to Louisa Pateman, author of Single Again and Again and Again, this month's very first Stork and I Book Club book. 
 
Louisa is a solo mum to a 10 year old and has documented her story in this amazing book which I couldn't put down and highly recommend.  
 
In this episode we cover:  
 
- How we keep adjusting our plans from how we originally thought our life would play out
- The baby calculator 
- Why we can't use the same approach in our lives to dating as we do with every other aspect of our lives
- Our views on whether living abroad impacts our chances of meeting a partner
- Why Louisa coined the term SWC35+ and what it means!
- Why some men view solo motherhood very positively
- Our experiences of internet dating and why there is sometimes a temptation to lower our standards
- Understanding our entrenched beliefs
- Why we sometimes make poor relationship choices because we want a baby
- Is it fair bringing a child into the universe knowing it only has one parent
- Experiencing labour solo 
- Talking to our children about donor conception
- The importance of changing the narrative around being single
and much more...!
 
You can find Louisa's book Single Again and Again and Again on Amazon and I highly recommend giving it a read.
S3: 4: Managing a career whilst solo parenting 2 children

S3: 4: Managing a career whilst solo parenting 2 children

May 26, 2021
In today's episode I chat to Sarah Camlett, solo mum to 2 children. A 2 year old son and a 6 year old daughter. Sarah has a successful career in film and TV that has taken her all around the world and I was really interested to chat to her about how she manages to balance family life and career. 
 
In today's episode we cover: 
 
- Doing the maths on whether there is really time to meet someone to have a baby with
- Preferences when choosing a sperm donor
- Watching the IUI procedure happening on the screen and the amazingness of science!
- Telling people you're pregnant when they had no clue you were trying to have a baby (and enjoying their surprise!)
- How active we were able to remain during pregnancy
- Who to have as a birth partner and the benefits of having a doula
- How to make your job work whilst solo parenting
- How being a parent makes you more productive
- The decision to have a 2nd child
- The reality of solo parenting 2 children
- and much more
 
S3: 3 Solo parenting with twins

S3: 3 Solo parenting with twins

May 20, 2021

In todays episode, I chat to Harriet, a solo mum to twin boys. Harriet conceived whilst living in New York, but when she found out she was having twins decided to move back to the UK, to get the support of her family. 

In this episode we cover:

- The impact of living abroad on meeting a partner

- The considerations when deciding to transfer 2 embryos

- The benefits of living with parents

- The realities of being a solo mum to twins

- The experience of being pregnant with twins

- Juggling work with motherhood and managing the different pulls on our time

- Asking for and accepting help

- Dating as a solo mum with kids

and much more 

Harriet is a member of The Stork and I Mum Tribe Facebook Group and can be contacted there if you'd like to connect with her.  

 

 

S3:2 Solo Parenting with a Chronic Illness

S3:2 Solo Parenting with a Chronic Illness

May 5, 2021
In todays episode I chat to Julie Seal @the_chronicoptimist, solo mum to her daughter Betsy. 
 
Julie contracted Lyme disease following a mosquito bite whilst in Greece and we discuss the impact of that, on her solo motherhood journey. 
 
In this episode we cover:
 
- Dating when wanting a baby
- Wanting to transfer 2 embryos, but being told no
- Managing the two week wait
- Having your mum as your birth partner
- How covid has helped with flexibility of where to live and enabled us to move closer to family
- How our egos sometimes stand in our way
- Approaching motherhood with a chronic illness
- Choosing a sperm donor
- The importance of mindset
 
and much more!
 
You can follow Julie on Instagram @the_chronicoptimist
S3:1 Egg Freezing with Amy Hart

S3:1 Egg Freezing with Amy Hart

April 28, 2021

The first episode of series 3 is all about Egg Freezing as a way of Fertility Preservation. In this episode I chat to Amy Hart, best known for Love Island and Celebs Go Dating and as she says in our interview, who is famously single. 

Amy has shared openly her desire to start a family in the future and her decision to freeze her eggs to give her time to meet someone, or to embark on solo motherhood if that doesn't happen for her. 

In this episode we discussed: 

- Why it's frustrating when people tell you, you have plenty of time

- Why Amy decided to freeze her eggs

- Why Amy wants to use her platform to raise awareness on this topic

- Amy's experience of the egg freezing process

- The 10 year egg storage limit and the implications if you want to freeze your eggs in your 20s

- Considerations on whether to freeze embryos

- Amy's thoughts about becoming a solo mum in the future and the support from her family

- I also ask Amy what she thought about the comment made on her appearance on Loose Women that no-one in their right mind would embark on solo motherhood. 

...and much more

 

For anyone considering freezing their eggs, this is a great listen to help get a greater insight into the process. 

 

 

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